When my niece was born and I met her for the first time, I whispered in her ear what I knew to be true, "You're amazing. You are smart and strong and creative. You are compassionate and kind and giving." I also told her she was pretty, but I tried then - and continue trying - to make that subservient to far more important qualities.
Today I found this recording of Katie Makkai at a poetry slam and watched it three times. I hope you will, too.
"The word pretty is unworthy of everything you will be...you will never be merely pretty."